Confrontation.
My prompt today will be the first word that popped into my head: Confrontation.
In my Community Psychology therapy technique class we end up discussing confrontation regularly. And, as to be expected, all my classmates hate and avoid confrontation. I have a love-hate relationship with confrontation. And sometimes, with certain people, more of a love relationship. I have to tone it down for Shane because he feels like I am beating him up with all the confrontation and bluntness I provide him with. The thing is, I LOVE when people tell me how they really feel (although I hate it when people decide to tell me how they really feel when I am trying to tell them how I really feel). I grew up somehow becoming a very passive person, believing everything that everyone else said and never standing up for myself. Something changed when I had kids. Confrontation became this mama bears biggest challenge. I was determined to overcome. I would become, I told myself, a master at confrontation. And therefore I took every opportunity, and despite fear, I dove in, sometimes ending up feet first, head first, or completely belly flopping (that can sting!). But I never gave up. I refuse to give my daughter, or my sons, an example of a mother that doesn't stick up for herself and her family. So I may hate the actual physical act of confronting someone, but I know that I love the results... usually (read: when my husband doesn't end up being ticked at me for two weeks, or when I can actually wave to my neighbor because she doesn't avoid me at all costs).
In my Community Psychology therapy technique class we end up discussing confrontation regularly. And, as to be expected, all my classmates hate and avoid confrontation. I have a love-hate relationship with confrontation. And sometimes, with certain people, more of a love relationship. I have to tone it down for Shane because he feels like I am beating him up with all the confrontation and bluntness I provide him with. The thing is, I LOVE when people tell me how they really feel (although I hate it when people decide to tell me how they really feel when I am trying to tell them how I really feel). I grew up somehow becoming a very passive person, believing everything that everyone else said and never standing up for myself. Something changed when I had kids. Confrontation became this mama bears biggest challenge. I was determined to overcome. I would become, I told myself, a master at confrontation. And therefore I took every opportunity, and despite fear, I dove in, sometimes ending up feet first, head first, or completely belly flopping (that can sting!). But I never gave up. I refuse to give my daughter, or my sons, an example of a mother that doesn't stick up for herself and her family. So I may hate the actual physical act of confronting someone, but I know that I love the results... usually (read: when my husband doesn't end up being ticked at me for two weeks, or when I can actually wave to my neighbor because she doesn't avoid me at all costs).
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